Is it ok to ask a woman whether or not she’s a feminist before asking her out on a date?
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I meet an absolutely beautiful woman yesterday at my college. She’s so beautiful!. We have lots of fun talking together and seem to have a lot in common. I’m thinking about asking her out today. But, I wonder, is she a feminist? Should I ask her whether or not she’s a feminist before asking her out?
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I meet an absolutely beautiful woman yesterday at my college. She’s so beautiful!. We have lots of fun talking together and seem to have a lot in common. I’m thinking about asking her out today. But, I wonder, is she a feminist? Should I ask her whether or not she’s a feminist before asking her out?
Is it ok to ask a woman whether or not she’s a feminist before asking her out on a date?
Alyssa
October 28th, 2009 at 8:44 am
Avery
Why, are you threatened by that, or something?
October 30th, 2009 at 5:51 pm
Thomas
Ask, but do it subtly…
November 1st, 2009 at 11:34 pm
Adam
It should be ok to ask her what she thinks about feminism – discreetly. But I don’t believe that anyone will be any less of a company just because they are a feminist.
And oh – be prepared to answer the question ‘are you against it?’ lol.
November 2nd, 2009 at 11:04 am
Autumn
Sure its ok. If it something you are so strongly opposed to it would be a good idea to ask her, IMO.
November 4th, 2009 at 4:01 am
Isabella
It would be a bad question since the majority of females disagree with what makes a feminist?. Play it safe and talk about Brittney and Lohan.
November 7th, 2009 at 10:46 am
Jason
lol sure…be prepared for an ear full when she finds out some of your believes whether or not she claims feminism
November 8th, 2009 at 1:42 pm
Alexis
No one can stop you from asking her anything you want. If you want to ask her that, go ahead. But keep in mind, too, that though there’s a good chance that she may not self-identify as a feminist (because of the negative stigma it seems to involve these days), but, chances are, she probably does think that women should be treated as equals, and that women are deserving of equal rights and opportunities. MOST women feel that way.
November 8th, 2009 at 6:31 pm
Henry
Of course you can. Life is short; be happy with whomever you pick. Have a wonderful time together!
You DO realize you’ll have to pick up the entire tab . . .
November 11th, 2009 at 10:12 am
Nevaeh
No matter if she is or not, she’ll take that question as an insult, so your chances of getting a date with her would be slim at best.
November 12th, 2009 at 7:18 pm
Maya
If you really want to know, try to bring up a conversation that leads to politics and gender issues.
If she starts ranting about the unfairness of it all for about an hour, you’ll have your answer.
November 15th, 2009 at 5:39 pm
Samuel
Ask her a question about science, if she shows some knowledge then you should be OK.
November 17th, 2009 at 10:54 pm
Zoe
Yes it is OK. It is not OK that you are apprehensive about it.
November 21st, 2009 at 2:34 am
Jacob
Heavens no you should just tell her to check out your comments about women on this site.
November 22nd, 2009 at 6:04 am
Noah
Let me guess, and if she IS a feminist, you will punish her by actually going through on a date with her, and if she’s not, you’ll reward her by saying Have a nice day and walking out of her life?
November 25th, 2009 at 2:42 pm
Paige
But if you’re getting along good, I don’t see why her being a feminist s/be a problem. Ostensibly, if you don’t get along and she’s not one, you still probably shouldn’t ask her out. I think you’re putting too much emphasis on it.
November 28th, 2009 at 3:45 am
Andrew
Should it be OK, probably. Is it OK,….NO!! If you’re a thinking man, a good feminist might be the best woman for you; but, if she’s a bad feminist, she might be the worst for you. Asking whether a woman is a feminist is like asking other loaded questions, which are best left to being evidenced by behavior and passing comments, or indirect questioning. A more useful, and illogically safer, question would be what have your exes said were your shortcomings? Just remember, much more is likely to be revealed though methods other than outright asking with most human beings.
November 30th, 2009 at 4:31 pm
Daniel
Why do you care if she is a feminist or not? Are you against the idea that she might believe that women should be equal? Just curious to why you would care. If she is a feminist that isn’t a reason not to ask her out. That would be shallow not to date her because of her opinions.
December 1st, 2009 at 4:17 pm
Jacob
if a proiroty or value in your life says not to or only date feminist then by all means ask!
just be cool and slickabout it
don’t just say
are you a feminist unless she says something that sounds feminist! then you can!
other then that i would just brake out ya answers and get her thoughts on some of these questions!
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:15 am
Richard
There are a lot of questions you should ask before a date. That one is optional.
Can’t you figure out the answer by just just talking with her? I think you are worried that you might like her and that she might like you and that finding out she’s a feminist after that would make you question some of your views. To save yourself from falling for her and if you can’t tell, you had better ask. You might save a nice woman from getting hung up on you and then finding out later what you are like. Hope you don’t shoot yourself in the foot.
C.
December 3rd, 2009 at 3:14 pm
Tyler
Don’t ask her that!
If you and her clicked like magic and really like each other then leave it at that.
Enjoy each other’s company, have a relationship with her.
She doesn’t have to be a feminist to be liberated and you don’t have to be supportive of feminism to be liberated either!
You don’t have to be a feminist for women to be interested in you however you do have to respect them if you want them to respect you.
December 5th, 2009 at 2:08 am
Claire
Don’t worry about it; she’ll turn you down anyway.
December 7th, 2009 at 3:32 pm
Hailey
I think it is funny (and by funny I mean sad) how feminism rules your life. Is it the only thing you ever think about?
December 8th, 2009 at 2:12 am
Charles
Would you be miffed if a girl asked you if you’re a Republican Conservative? Of course not! Now since the rule is do unto others, etc. go ahead and ask. Only a deranged woman/feminist could object to that harmless query. –Carlos
December 8th, 2009 at 5:37 pm
Sarah
If your in college ask a English Teacher what the term Contradiction in Terms means. Oxymoron = Beautiful Feminist.
December 10th, 2009 at 9:26 pm
Isaiah
Dont marry a college educated woman.
December 11th, 2009 at 1:59 am
Jocelyn
Let it be a surprise, a sort of magical mystery tour.
Don’t forget, lots of so-called feminists aren’t really feminists at all. It’s only a trendy label, after all.