How to ask a girl out on a date?
Joe asked:
Im not sure if its more of an american thing for girls to be asked out on dates, but anyway, i live in England and quite a few girls have said they’d love to be asked out on dates. Theres this girl Ive seen around and I’d like to ask her out on a date, but im not sure how.
Sounds stupid I know, but.. help? lol
Alexander
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Im not sure if its more of an american thing for girls to be asked out on dates, but anyway, i live in England and quite a few girls have said they’d love to be asked out on dates. Theres this girl Ive seen around and I’d like to ask her out on a date, but im not sure how.
Sounds stupid I know, but.. help? lol
Alexander
October 31st, 2009 at 1:32 pm
Cameron
just be like, hey we should hang out sometime go see a movie or something
it would be considered a date:D
November 3rd, 2009 at 3:30 am
Haley
Approach the girl you like. Say hi or hey and ask her a question or give her a compliment. It can be scary, but it’s really pretty simple. If starting conversations is not your strong point, read these articles:
How to Talk to Strangers
How to Come Up with Good Conversation Topics
Flirt a little! Relax, crack a joke, and break the touch barrier (see How to Touch a Girl).
Gauge her interest. Take notice of eye contact, smiling, laughter, and enthusiasm in her responses. Read her body language.
Notice if she touches you more often than what friends do (she’s constantly trying to touch your hand or something). If she finds excuses to do so, then you’re probably on the right track. But conversely, don’t assume that just because she isn’t touching you that she doesn’t like you. She may be too nervous to touch you yet.
Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold it for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it means she is nervous but she still likes you. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she likes you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction.
Pop the question. Hey, why don’t you come to the movies with me this weekend? (It doesn’t have to be the movies – it can be anything you’re interested in, and that you think she’ll enjoy too.)
Another good way to ask is I heard about this movie, _______. What do you think about it? If she says she’d like to see it, ask if she’d want to see it with you. If she says As in a date?, don’t be afraid to say yes. If she doesn’t say that, just make a time, turn up and treat it like a date and she’ll get the drift.
Keep your cool if she says no. Respond gracefully, like No problem! Maybe another time. I’ll see you around, OK? And go about your business – there are other fish in the sea!
Another way to go about doing it is to bail before she has a chance to respond. See How to Sweep a Girl off Her Feet.
TipsAsk her when you two are ALONE. Having others around you will stir pressure on her to say yes or no.
Ask her out directly. Instead of texting, getting other boys to ask her out for you, or beating around the bush, just ask her. Even if you’re nervous, this will increase your chances. Most girls will admire your confidence if you are not arrogant about it.
Being relaxed and confident is the difference between a comfortable silence and an unbearable silence. It’s natural to have breaks in the conversation. Don’t sweat it.
Try to look the girl in the eyes. This will let her know that you are going to ask her out and she will be prepared for when you ask her out and lets her know that you like her. It may take a lot of courage but its helps so much.
Don’t be afraid of rejection! Most girls have big hearts and will not let you down very easily, if at all. Some girls agree to one date just because you asked and they’re being nice. Don’t take it the wrong way, it simply means she likes you enough to not hurt your feelings but not enough that she’s ready for a relationship.
When you do approach the girl, try not to start the conversation by a Hey, can I talk to you? or a Can I ask you something?. Don’t ask her out randomly, but these lines are giant hints that you are about to ask her out. This would be awkward.
If she says no, just ask Oh, OK. Is it fine if we’re still friends?
Sometimes the girl may not have much experience and still not be comfortable with going out. They may say no just because they are nervous. If they bite their lip, look away, blush a lot or show any signs of nerves, give them time to think about it. After at least two or three weeks, ask again, casually, and they may say yes.
November 4th, 2009 at 8:49 am
Jennifer
just be casual about it like say would you like to hang out sometime or something. Make sure it fits the coversation or else it may be awkward for both of you. Best of luck =]
November 4th, 2009 at 9:53 am
Samuel
Start a small conversation, try to get to know eachother better. Then maybe then approach her an ask her out
November 4th, 2009 at 11:38 am
Makayla
start a small conversation then ask her if she wants to hang out sometime
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